1:1 Coaching · The Strong Body Method
Get in the Best Shape of Your Life. Without Putting Your Life on Hold.
1:1 strength and nutrition coaching for gay men over 40. A custom plan built around your work, your travel, and your social life. And a coach who adjusts it with you every week.
Apply for CoachingTakes about 2 minutes. If it's a fit, you'll book a call with me right after.
You've Been Doing the Work. The Plan Was Built for Someone Else.
You haven’t been slacking. You’ve been going. Three, four days a week, for years. You know your way around a gym, you’ve read the research, you could out-argue half the trainers on Instagram. And you look about the same as you did three years ago.
That’s the part that gets to you. Not the effort. The fact that the effort hasn’t bought you anything.
So you’ve tried switching it up. Endless cardio, a bootcamp, dry January, the program your friend swore by. Some of it worked. For a minute. Then summer hit, or work blew up, or you went away for ten days, and the whole thing came apart.
That isn’t a willpower problem. Every plan you’ve tried was written for a guy who can put his life on hold for twelve weeks. You can’t. Nobody with a job, a calendar and a social life can.
I’ve been coaching for over twenty years, and I’ve watched a few hundred guys hit this exact wall. They’re all doing the work. They’re just doing it inside a plan that only accounts for three hours of their week.
Guys Who Were Exactly Where You Are
Adam
- Squatted his own bodyweight
- Vastly improved cardio capacity
- Finally gained the confidence to strength train on his own
Steven
- Lost 5 pounds of body fat
- Ran a 5k for the first time
- Consistent for a year without ‘falling off’
Ben
- Lost 18 pounds of body fat
- Added 165 pounds to his deadlift
- Hit multiple PRs for strength
Three Hours in the Gym. 165 Hours Everywhere Else.
When I started training clients in the early 2000s, I got them three hours a week in the gym. Everything that decided whether they got results happened in the other 165, where I had no say at all. That’s where most plans fall apart. The Strong Body Method covers the whole week.
Get stronger, week after week
The fastest way to the body you want is progressive strength training. Not sweating through another class. Not a million burpees. Not feeling broken on Monday. Just getting measurably stronger, with workouts that respect your joints.
Eat in a way you'll actually stick with
Some guys want macros and a full meal plan so there's zero guessing. Others do better with a few simple rules. We use whichever one you'll follow, and it works whether you cook every night or eat out every meal.
Build it around your real life
Your schedule, your travel, your brunches and happy hours get built into the plan. Going away for ten days? Eat, drink and enjoy it. We build a system for the other 355 days of the year, so a vacation doesn't take the wheels off. And if you like to train while you travel, we'll plan for that too.
Here's What You Get, Every Week
A plan built from scratch
You fill out a detailed profile: training history, diet, stress, what your week really looks like. I read every word of it and build your training and nutrition plan from there. It's in your app within 3 days.
Training that progresses
Your workouts are written for your experience level, your gym and how often you can realistically train. They change as you get stronger.
Nutrition that fits you
Macros and meal plans, or simple guidelines. Either way it's built for how you eat, cook (or don't), drink and travel.
Weekly check-ins
At the end of every week you check in, and I adjust your plan to the week you had. Not the one you were supposed to have.
Direct access to me
Message me any time with questions. Plus a 1:1 call each month, and more if you need it.
The Strong Body playbook
Guides I wrote for the stuff most coaches skip. How to order in a restaurant. How to sleep better and manage stress. How to drink without wrecking your week.
Three Steps. No Guesswork.
Apply
Answer a few questions about where you are and where you want to be. It takes about 2 minutes.
Talk it through
If it looks like a fit, you'll book a 45-minute strategy call with me. We'll figure out whether working together makes sense. If it does, I'll tell you exactly what that looks like. If it doesn't, you'll leave with a clear picture of what to do next. No hard sell.
Get your plan
Within 3 days your custom training and nutrition plan is in your app, and we have a kickoff call. From there we check in every week and adjust as you go.
Is This for You?
This is for you if…
- You’re over 40 and you’ve been at this for years without getting where you want to be.
- You already know your way around a gym and the basic lifts.
- You have a full life. Work, travel, friends, drinks. You’re not giving it up.
- You want someone to tell you exactly what to do, and adjust it when life gets messy.
This is not for you if…
- You’re brand new to lifting and don’t know the basic exercises yet.
- You need in-person, in-gym personal training.
- You want a 30-day shred.
- You want to be yelled at, or told you can never drink again.
- You’re looking for free advice rather than a coach.
What Changes Besides the Mirror
The flat stomach and the broad shoulders you’ve been after. Legs and an ass that aren’t an afterthought. Strength and endurance that make everything else more fun.
The bigger change is what comes with it. You stop letting the mirror set your mood. You stop dressing around your body. You’re not the last guy at the beach to take his shirt off. You have dinner with friends without a spreadsheet running in your head.
You stop being the guy who’s been trying for years. You become the guy who figured it out.
Don't Just Take My Word for It
My goal was 400 pounds on the trap bar deadlift.
I just hit that goal a few weeks ahead of schedule, without ever injuring myself.
And am now stronger than I’ve ever been.
Ben R.
I got so tired of stopping and starting every few months.
Thank you for giving me a plan that actually works!
Bryan C.
The gym was never a problem for me, but I could never lose the last few pounds off my stomach.
And every diet I tried made me feel too skinny.
I finally learned how to eat and broke out of that endless cycle.
Neil P.
Why I Coach Gay Men Over 40
Anthony Nehra, MS · Exercise Physiology and Sports Nutrition
I’m Anthony Nehra. I’ve been coaching for over two decades: athletes, busy executives, stay-at-home dads. These days I mostly work with gay men over 40, because I’m one of them and it’s a community I care deeply about.
I know the specific baggage a lot of us carry. Maybe you were the kid who got picked last, or picked on. Maybe the pressure to look a certain way, on the beach, on the apps, at the party, has followed you for years. I get it. None of it means you can’t build a strong, athletic body now.
I hold an MS in Exercise Physiology and Sports Nutrition, and I’ve watched the fitness industry try every gimmick at least once. Low-fat, paleo, keto, CrossFit, fasting. I’ve tried most of them myself. What actually works is less exciting and a lot more reliable, and it’s gotten hundreds of guys where they wanted to go.
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Before You Apply
I’m over 40 (or 50). Is it too late?
No. Strength training is the single best thing you can do for your body as you get older. Your program is built around your age, your recovery and any old injuries, so you get stronger without getting hurt.
I travel all the time. Will this work?
That’s what it’s built for. We plan for trips ahead of time: hotel-gym workouts, simpler sessions, or a deliberate break if you’d rather just enjoy yourself. When you get back, you pick up where you left off.
I’m going on vacation soon. Should I wait until I’m back?
Usually not. Starting now gives you momentum, and we’ll plan the trip into your program. Waiting until “after vacation” tends to turn into waiting until after Labor Day, then after the holidays.
My social life revolves around brunch, dinners and drinks. Do I have to give that up?
No. I like a drink too. You keep the social life. We build the plan around it, so one big weekend doesn’t flatten the rest of your week.
I don’t cook. I eat out most meals.
Then we’ll make eating out work. I’d rather teach you how to order well than force you into chicken and rice at home.
Do I have to count macros?
Only if you want to. Some clients like the numbers. Others do better with simple guidelines. Your nutrition plan is built around what you’ll follow.
How much time does it take?
Most clients train 3 to 4 days a week, scheduled around your calendar. Your weekly check-in takes a few minutes.
Do I need a gym?
A gym gets the best results, and your workouts are written for the equipment you have. You can train at home too. A set of adjustable dumbbells and a few resistance bands go a long way. When you’re traveling, we adapt.
Do I have to send progress photos?
They’re encouraged, never required. Photos stay between you and me. Plenty of clients keep them in a folder on their own phone.
What happens on the strategy call?
We talk through where you are, what’s gotten in the way and where you want to be. If coaching makes sense, I’ll lay out exactly what working together looks like. If it doesn’t, you’ll still leave with a clear next step. It’s 45 minutes and there’s no hard sell.
How much does coaching cost?
It depends on what you need, so we cover it on the call.
You've Tried Everything Else. Try a Plan Built for You.
If you've been at this for years and nothing in your current loop is going to get you there, apply. If it's a fit, we'll talk.
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